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Burning Bridges, Giving Up, Forgiving, and Reconciling
Covid fractured many relationships - can they be salvaged?
While searching Reddit (a cesspit in many ways, and at the same time, a gold mine of relatable stories) for interesting historical posts to tweet, I came across a personal story that will touch nearly all of my readers.
It begins as a throwback to the past - and it is something many of us lived through. Read to the end, as the ending will surprise you!
The redditor below, who was an expectant mother two years ago in 2021, decided to cut off her “antivax family.” (archive link) She refused to allow her unvaccinated relatives any contact with the baby, not even photos (help me make it make sense).
While, under certain perverted fiction-based logic, I could see why she would not allow unvaccinated people to come near the baby, Redditor /u/sexandjack also decided not even to send baby pictures to her unvaccinated parents.
Many other vaccinated pregnant women chimed in in support. They cut off their moms, dads, or siblings for not getting the Covid vaccine.
Strangely, they blame their relatives and feel “hurt” by the relatives’ irresponsible health choices. The redditor above smugly points out how the relatives are “making a choice and have to deal with consequences.”
My baby’s health is more important than your feelings, another Redditor quips, seemingly enjoying the anguish of relatives that she is blocking from seeing her baby.
Above, /u/bachennoir complains about feeling lonely and isolated from her relatives. The irony is completely lost on her that the preceding sentence explains her loneliness by showing her nasty personality! She says, “This is why I think OP’s decision not to share pictures is actually a good one.” I hope you agree: if there is one thing that could make the mother lonely, it is not sharing pictures - but I digress.
There is a truly tragic comment: /u/unicornshoenicorn reports that Covid vaccine killed her father - via blood clots - and yet she unyieldingly demands that her remaining terrified relatives get the COVID vaccine if they are to see her baby:
The cruelty and stupidity of such demands are, of course, completely lost on the commenter above.
Families Broken Up by Covid Propaganda
The above comments, written smugly and with a completely undeserved sense of superiority, amplified by a moderated Reddit echo chamber, are an illustration of the depths of hatred created by the relentless COVID propaganda. Fathers, mothers, children, and grandparents were variously cast aside because relatives were lied to about the effectiveness of Covid vaccines (which do not prevent any infections). Families were broken up, and many relationships were damaged.
Many of us, no doubt, have heard of families similarly affected. If you know of any shattered relationships or breakups initiated by people victimized by industrialized fear-mongering and psychological manipulation, please share your story in the comments (while being mindful of privacy!)
An Unexpected Ending
I researched the original poster’s Reddit posts. The ending of the original Redditor’s story is quite unexpected. Fortunately, everyone is healthy, including the mom, baby, and her “ignorant, unvaccinated relatives.”
However, two years later, the original poster was unceremoniously dumped by the baby daddy and left with nothing: no house, no money, no job, and a toddler to care for. The ex-boyfriend kept his separately owned house and everything.
Guess where the OP went after being left homeless? That’s right: she and her baby went on to live with her parents, whom she previously banned from contacting even seeing her son’s pictures:
Now the OP reports that “Luckily she has family who have been so supportive and wonderful.”
What a change!
I am glad that her family, whom she previously fought to prevent them from seeing their grandchild, reconciled, although under less-than-perfect circumstances. I am also happy for the baby that the grandparents decided not to hold grudges and are providing a home to stay in.
I understand that many families are dysfunctional in ways beyond differing attitudes towards Covid. A lot of people have strained parental or in-law relations. I get it.
And yet, we need to recognize how deeply some people were affected by Covid propaganda. Many Covid narrative believers were scared unnecessarily by the fear and lockdown messaging. Similarly, many of us antivaxxers were also deeply scared by things that did not make sense, suspected the worst intentions, and were scarred by senseless vaccine mandates and discrimination.
Both sides, for various reasons, experienced fear, loathing, and hatred.
Is it, perhaps, time to look back and see if we can seek reconciliation, more understanding with our relatives, and find common grounds? The Reddit OP went from banning her parents to living with them, after all, so not all hope is lost.
I am not asking that we grant “pandemic forgiveness” to criminals who released a deadly virus killing millions, broke up families, lied to citizens, and mightily profited from non-working Covid vaccines.
But I am asking to see if the friends and relatives who cast us aside, or whom we cast aside, can perhaps be better understood, forgiven, and embraced again.
While I personally have not broken up with any friends or relatives over Covid, I have heard many heartbreaking stories of such things happening.
It is time to look back and see if the bridges have entirely burned or can be rebuilt. Maybe some are - but perhaps some are not. We should not allow the Covid criminals to break us up with our loved ones - if we can figure out how to undo the damage.
Lastly, I do recognize that some things get broken beyond repair. If anyone feels this way, I am not here to judge or sermonize to do the impossible.
Is personal reconciliation possible or even necessary? Let us know what you think. Any opinion is fine - go ahead and express your thoughts!
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